During the final years of the 1980s, I was beginning a low-cost journey to Europe with a travel partner. Because my companion was exploring starting a postgraduate program in New York, we had booked a fortnight visit there on the way to London.
We reached the postgrad residence, a big ten-floor structure on the Upper West Side known as International House. After dropping our bags, we went directly to the dining hall, where we grabbed food, found a table, and started talking to other diners.
Beside me was an Iraqi man studying engineering at Columbia University. He asked me what I my profession was, and I explained that I had just graduated with a scientific background and had been performing experiments using an electron microscope.
He pointed out that there was an electron microscope unit at Columbia University – close to the engineering department, which was the reason he was familiar with it. He recommended that I should apply for a position with them. I dismissed the idea, explaining that I was about to fly to Europe and, more critically, I lacked a US visa.
The next day I ventured out, returning to the canteen that night. The man from Iraq approached me and informed me that he had organized a discussion for me with the leader of the research team at Columbia. Since he had taken the effort, I showed up for the discussion – but right away told my prospective employer that I was without a work permit, so I was likely not a suitable candidate.
Reflecting the city's spirit – a metropolis where opportunities abound – she responded: “We'll handle it. How soon can you begin?” I didn't board the aircraft to London.
I held that position for three years. An advantage of the role was that I was granted no-cost classes at Columbia, and I took advantage to complete a graduate degree in global studies.
I never saw that student again and I am unaware of his identity, but his incredible act of kindness changed my life in multiple respects. I lacked the bravery or self-belief to reach out at an prestigious college and request employment. And, I had always wanted to pursue education overseas, but wouldn't have been able to pay for it without that free tuition.
What's more, that gig at Columbia paved the way for a position in Switzerland where I met my beautiful French husband, with whom I currently share four amazing children. That encounter altered everything. That kind stranger set me on a different course in life, and I’m eternally thankful.
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